Cosmetic surgery is not a solution for teenage beauty issues

I suffered from BDD when I was a teenager. From the ages of 13-18 I was convinced that I was grotesque. My diaries of the time are filled with pages of self loathing. It is quite painful to read. I was convinced that the only solution to my ‘problem’ was plastic surgery.


I borrowed books on the subject from the library and poured over them. I spent hours fantasising about the surgery I would have. No one believes me when I tell them this now. They say, ‘But you must have *known*. You only had to look in the mirror’. I have difficulty believing it myself. I look at pictures of myself taken at that time in my life (and there aren’t many. For obvious reasons, I always ensured that I was on the other side of the camera) and while I was no Helen of Troy I was certainly not grotesque. Fortunately, I never embarked upon the path of actually going through with surgery.


I would have been one of those people who would never be satisfied b/c the problem is in my head and no amount of surgery can fix that Lately, I’ve been grappling with how I look issues (mid-life crisis) Wondering how my children will fit in with society. Will they ever talk plainly(though they improve each day) And somewhere in the back in the recess of my mind and from the depths of my soul, I see it trying to come through–the attitude that I don’t have to be like everyone else.


That I stand alone on the merits of who I am–with or without cheekbones, regardless of any nasality, but by what I say and convey to others. We(a society) are working towards this…but still have a long way to go. . People with developmental disabilities (there’s that concept again : )) are working in the mainstream more, living independently, seen in restaurants, other public places more than before. Places are handicapped accessible. Sign language more prevalent. Schools mainstreamed and on and on.

Reconsturctive surgery Vs cosmetic surgery

There is a difference between “caring what you look like” if you happen to have a situation which can be controlled to a certain extent by you yourself (ie, weight, etc.) and having a situation which you cannot control at all, and which has had a great impact on your life since birth. In some instances people with various disorders that affect their appearance do go on to be quite happy with themselves, appearance notwithstanding, but in other instances, they may have just the same sort of issues that other people have.


Some deal more effectively than others. We(a society) are working towards this…but still have a long way to go. . People with developmental disabilities (there’s that concept again : )) are working in the mainstream more, living independently, seen in restaurants, other public places more than before. Places are handicapped accessible. Sign language more prevalent. Schools mainstreamed and on and on.


The point I am trying to make is that our group is a gift to our children and to ourselves as we educate people, as the public gets used to seeing that not everyone is thin and beautiful, we can all know that we are special(all human beings) because we have a purpose to grow and learn on this earth. We have something to share. And when we are not worried about looking, or being like everyone else, we can get on with the job that God gave us.


Unfortunately, surgery isn’t the answer…. no “quick fixes” here…. I hope that as time goes on and you are able to eventually get into therapy and start working on some of these issues with a person you trust that eventually you WILL be able to mingle with people and feel comfortable in your own skin, to like yourself, to enjoy being yourself….

Repeated cosmetic surgery

As others have said, many people who undergo repeated cosmetic surgery procedures may be experiencing body dysmorphic disorder. Good plastic surgeons will interview prospective patients thoroughly before agreeing to perform any sort of surgery which doesn’t seem to be warranted.


If it seems that a patient has unrealistic expectations or is overly-focused on flaws which are not apparent to anyone else, good surgeons will refer them to a psychiatrist or psychologist and refuse to do surgery. Other surgeons are not that scrupulous. There is a woman who lives in NYC who has had so many repeated cosmetic procedures on her face and her eyes that she is now rather bizarre looking, almost deformed, rather than having whatever appearance she was originally seeking….probably she was a perfectly ordinary or good looking woman before she started her frequent trips under the knife.


There is a distinct difference between plastic and reconstructive surgery which is done to repair damage of some sort due to congenital anomalies, accidents or disfiguring illness, and the more popular cosmetic surgery.As someone who has had the benefit of reconstructive surgery, I am quite disturbed when I read of some of these situations or see them on TV where a patient who is perfectly normal is requesting some cosmetic procedure which may or may not actually enhance their appearance and which may have no real impact on the underlying psychological problems which most likely exist.

quite frankly i think anyone who has surgery for anything other than an emergency, to prevent an emergency or for medical necessity doesn’t fall in the sane category. maybe that’s because I’ve spent more time in the OR than i want to remember and I’ve seen everything that can happen.

I saw something on TV that made me think

I saw this show tonight on the Discovery Health channel. I think it’s called “Under the Knife”. It’s about plastic surgery. I can’t stomach the graphic medical part, but I was intrigued by the parts where they talk to the people before and after having surgery.Something that went through my head after seeing this: I wonder if the desire for certain people to have cosmetic surgery is motivated by the same sorts of things that can cause other people to have an eating disorder. I mostly wonder, since the people I saw on the show looked fine to me, at least fine enough not to warrant major corrective surgery.


EDs have potential long term health consequences. So does surgery. Why is someone with an ED is considered “sick”, when someone who has cosmetic surgery like liposuction, or a tummy tuck is considered more or less OK and sane by the general population? Surgery to get rid of fat, vs. other drastic methods that ED-ers use to lose weight…


It seems like a fine line to me, between using pills, purging, starvation or surgery or whatever method. I’m not saying that people who have liposuction or other plastic surgery are necessarily “sick”, but I’m considering that liposuction and other procedures can have complications, or even kill people if done improperly.


I’ve read comments on this by plastic surgeons as well as by people in the psych profession. There’s a thing called “body dysmorphia,” which is an obsession with (real or imagined) imperfections in one’s appearance. Some people who experience this have incredible amounts of plastic surgery to make themselves fit their “perfect” standards. Michael Jackson is probably the most famous example of this.

Cosmetic surgery for disabled kids

The kids themselves ranges from severely disabled to very mainstream-able(I have no idea what the proper way to say that these days). They also had the doctors who specialized in this and other reconstructive surgeries. The parents seemed all to be very comfortable with their special kids.


They did the surgery so the kids would look more like the mom, dad or other siblings, rather than other kids. You could still tell the kids had a “problem” but the surgery results were amazing. As an outsider to this situation, most Down’s kids that I have seen all have very similar features and don’t really look like their families. But after the surgery, there were noticeable similarities to the parents.


They didn’t drastically change the children’s features. Just smoothed out (I guess you’d say) harsh obvious features of Downs (mostly the eye shape). The kids on the show that day were happy to look like their families. You could probably write these shows for transcripts or video of the episode. In the situations presented on the show, I didn’t see a problem with it. The surgeries weren’t long drawn out over years type of changes and the kids were content. The mom’s seem to be doing for the kids, not to deny the Down’s.


Let me say that we love him tremendously no matter what the shape of his head, but I do not want his teased by people that don’t later in life. I do not want him prejudged on his “different” appearance if it can be corrected. It had nothing to do with our acceptance of him, and everything to do with his acceptance by others and himself. I know “normal” teenagers don’t like their appearance, and I see no reason to add to that stress.

Cosmetic surgery for Down’s features

In seminar last night we were presented with a case study of a mother of a child who had Down’s. This mother was particularly concerned about the child’s epicanthic folds. Obviously they made the child look different from other kids and she wanted the folds corrected. I was fascinated by the reactions of the early childhood educators in the class. They were appalled that the mother would focus on this feature. They said that the mother wasn’t accepting her child as she was.


They said the mom was focusing on making the kid normal and not on loving the kid unconditionally. My argument was that the mom probably did love the kid and just wanted the kid to avoid being automatically labelled. My son has a rare genetic disorder kinda like Downs with a portion of CP. And while he is of normal looks, he had severe strabisimus (crossed eyes). His behaviour is maybe at the 8 month level (he is 2, 36 inches tall and almost 30 pounds. He does NOT behave like hge looks like he ought to.


We had surgery done on his eyes and have noticed 2 things. With his eyes crossed, people saw his age inappropriate behaviour but also got an inkling that there may be something wrong with him. (Good and bad results due to that) With his eyes corrected, you couldn’t tell there’s anything wrong with him if he’s at rest, but now when he acts age inappropriate, we are very conscious of peoples reactions. It’s almost like before, he had a visible clue that there was a problem; absent the clue, people treat him like a 2 year old who’s not acting right.

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Risks involved in cosmetic surgery

Although more and more men are undergoing cosmetic surgery, women remain its chief consumers. A face lift. A tummy tuck. A nose job. A breast enhancement. The terms sound so cozy, even if the actual procedures are anything but. Women have played an active role in encouraging the culture of cosmetic surgery, but of course women are under far more social pressure than men to look good.


Even feminists disagree among themselves about cosmetic surgery. Is it capitulation to the cultural ideologies and beauty myths that have historically victimized women? Or is it a form of self-empowerment? Haiken suggests that it’s both: It may empower individual women, but its history is “a compelling reminder of just how limited has been the range of options that women have perceived to be available to them.” No cosmetic surgery has been more controversial than the silicone breast implant. Haiken’s chapter on the subject is excellent. She writes that the fundamental question is not whether cosmetic surgery is feminist or antifeminist, or whether or not implants cause illness, but how it happened that so many women became convinced that their lack of mammary endowment was a disease, and why implants were so universally heralded as a cure. Cosmetic surgery is singular among medical specialties in being consumer-driven.


Those consumers are, for the most part, average Americans. A recent survey revealed that 30 percent of patients had household incomes of $25,000 or less, and another 35 percent were in the $25,000-to-$50,00 bracket. Haiken writes, “Without the thousands of Americans who begged their surgeons to devise solutions to the problems that distressed them, cosmetic surgery would not be the phenomenon it is today.” Cosmetic surgery responds to public demand, inventing new and controversial methods of self-improvement. Liposuction, for example, in which fat is sucked out of the body with what is essentially a glorified vacuum cleaner. Or botox injections, in which small amounts of the deadly botulism toxin are injected into facial wrinkles to paralyze them temporarily.

Book Review article, Coming face to face with cosmetic surgery

By the 1920s, cosmetic surgery had a hold on the imagination of the American public, thanks in large part to the efforts of journalists, who, then as now, were fascinated by its possibilities. In 1923, the famous Jewish comedian Fanny Brice submitted to a much-publicized nose bob in hopes that it would enable her to play a wider range of roles. “Hurrah for the intrepid Fanny,” The New York Times editorialized. (Writer Dorothy Parker, @also Jewish, saw it differently, commenting that Brice had “cut off her nose to spite her race.”)


In the 1920s and ’30s, trained plastic surgeons realized the importance of establishing the legitimacy of their specialty and brought it under the auspices of the American Medical Association. The American Board of Plastic Surgery was founded in 1941 to set standards for the profession. In the years between the wars, many plastic surgeons had concentrated on performing reconstructive surgery and were reluctant to operate on patients motivated by vanity. But by the ’40s most had realized that vanity was where the future lay, to say nothing of the money. The doctors were shortly persuaded that these patients weren’t @motivated by (unhealthy) vanity but by a (healthy) desire for self-respect through self-improvement. If a new nose or chin would help them land a job or a husband, the cosmetic surgeon was ready to help. It was, and is, the American way.


As Haiken’s research reveals, popular psychology played a crucial role in the triumph of cosmetic surgery. Alfred Adler’s concept of the inferiority complex was much in vogue in the 1930s and ’40s. The cosmetic surgeon was thus seen as serving a psychological @function by helping patients overcome feelings of inferiority engendered by an unattractive appearance. The link between cosmetic surgery and psychology is stronger than ever today. Many patients seek surgery hoping it will improve what we have learned to call self-esteem.

Cosmetic surgery more effective than upgrading ?

From what newspapers have shown young pretty babes with skimpy bikinis and tiny skirts selling hundred cups of bubble tea to many eager and ‘thirsty’ patrons, somewhere in Woodlands, it has totally validated my view that Singaporeans do not need diploma, degree or high education certificates to find a job and create wealth. What Singaporean need is cosmetic surgery to enhance their face and body and the desire to bare them to their eager public !! Singaporeans should forget about upgrading their brains and go for upgrading their bodies instead.


If our society desire young beautiful perky working boys and girls to man their stations and entice customers, Singaporean should go for cosmetic surgery and appeal to the government for more “cosmetic surgery funds”. Since most employers want only good looking and relatively young workers, having a S$1 billion funds will allow all Singaporeans to fixed their crooked teeth, stop hair loss, lose tummy fat and perk up their nose, ear, mouth, eyelid plus whatever is visible to the employer.


Singapore service industry is also moving towards “world class” and therefore no ‘ugly’ or old workers are desirable as this is bad image for the service industry. If the sale assistant is as ugly as your dead grandmother, where got business !! Singaporeans urgently need many cosmetic surgery before job application is successful as that is what employers want, hence, instead of life long learning, how about having a life long “cosmetic surgery funds” ?

Finding the best plastic surgeon

Actually, there’s plenty of good plastic surgery around — you just can’t spot it, like a good toupee or hair weave. . People who have their eyes done in their mid-thirties, to buy a few years before the crows feet are engraved into their skin, then follow that up with a tiny face lift 7-8 years later. . There is a point, however, when you stop.


It’s great to look 45 when you’re 53. But you ain’t ever going to look 30 again, and it’s those who try who look the scariest. . Angela Lansbury did very well for a long time — she started out with an old looking face — in her twenties she looked 40, so that gave her an advantage. She basically got to look 40 for an extra 15 years.


She needs to stop now, however, or she’ll be scary looking. . The lady who plays the grandmother on Promised Land also looks great — Celeste Holm. Yes, she’s obviously had plastic surgery. She’s not fooling anybody — yet you couldn’t spot it from 100 feet away, either. She still looks like somebody’s grandmother. . The trouble with most socialite facelifts is that they don’t get them to look like a very young grandmother, but to look like they looked when they were young parents, and there’s only so much that can be done.


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