There is a difference between “caring what you look like” if you happen to have a situation which can be controlled to a certain extent by you yourself (ie, weight, etc.) and having a situation which you cannot control at all, and which has had a great impact on your life since birth. In some instances people with various disorders that affect their appearance do go on to be quite happy with themselves, appearance notwithstanding, but in other instances, they may have just the same sort of issues that other people have.
Some deal more effectively than others. We(a society) are working towards this…but still have a long way to go. . People with developmental disabilities (there’s that concept again : )) are working in the mainstream more, living independently, seen in restaurants, other public places more than before. Places are handicapped accessible. Sign language more prevalent. Schools mainstreamed and on and on.
The point I am trying to make is that our group is a gift to our children and to ourselves as we educate people, as the public gets used to seeing that not everyone is thin and beautiful, we can all know that we are special(all human beings) because we have a purpose to grow and learn on this earth. We have something to share. And when we are not worried about looking, or being like everyone else, we can get on with the job that God gave us.
Unfortunately, surgery isn’t the answer…. no “quick fixes” here…. I hope that as time goes on and you are able to eventually get into therapy and start working on some of these issues with a person you trust that eventually you WILL be able to mingle with people and feel comfortable in your own skin, to like yourself, to enjoy being yourself….